Rainbows And Reality


I did not set out to write a controversial blog. ¬†In fact, if more people thought like me, it wouldn’t be. ūüôā ¬†I am still trying to figure out why everyone doesn’t share all my thoughts and opinions. Lol. ¬†But, seriously, folks…..this week marked a historical time in our country’s evolution. Marriage equality for everyone! ¬†The straights, the gays, the others…everyone, free to marry their one true love. ¬†Pretty awesome, I think. ¬†Most of my circle of friends are progressive people. ¬†Lots of artists, educators and all around wonderful people. ¬†A majority of my friends are gay. ¬†Some of my nearest and dearest. ¬†For the most part, the internet was a rainbow of colors celebrating this step forward for equality. ¬†Because my circle of friends are mostly like thinkers, my Facebook feed was pretty positive stuff. ¬† On the other hand, the thing about social media is that you don’t just get the stuff you want to see…you get a lot of the stuff you wished you hadn’t. ¬†That is what happened this week.

A friend of mine, who I knew was a church going gal, posted some pretty negative stuff regarding same sex marriage. ¬†I’m saddened by this, because I don’t know that I can be friends with her after reading her opinions. ¬†Before social media let you post your opinions for the world to see, I didn’t know she had such disdainful feelings towards some of my dearest friends, dare I say family. ¬†How can I remain friends with her when I know now how she feels about the people that I love?

She went as far as to say that God “detests” homosexuality. ¬†Hmm. ¬†That’s pretty strong. ¬†Firstly, how does she know? ¬†I mean a vast majority of us speak to God…but has he ever actually spoken to her saying,” I detest the Gays!” ¬†I’m confused by this righteousness coming from a twice married woman. ¬† For the life of me, I just don’t see why anyone wants to deny another person equality? ¬†It seems so un-Christian. ¬†It’s like being on a diet and being outraged that the person next to you is eating a hamburger. ¬†It’s irrational. At least in my opinion.

What I know for sure is that I want my child to grow up in a world where no matter what his sexual orientation is, he will be treated fairly. ¬†No matter what the color of his skin is, he will be treated without prejudice. ¬† If he decides he feels more comfortable in women’s clothes or he wants to be called Olivia, I want society to treat him with dignity and respect. ¬†I know, I know….life isn’t fair. ¬†But the laws that govern our land should be. ¬†At the very least.

I keep discovering things about myself as I continue on this journey of being a mother, especially at my advanced maternal age. ¬†One, is that I am stronger than I ever knew I was. ¬†Another is, I have no tolerance for people’s ridiculous hate. ¬†Life is just too too short. ¬†And I don’t have time to have my nose in anyone else’s garden if I want to tend to my own precious one. ¬†Most importantly, my priority is my beautiful family. ¬†If anyone threatened my son’s right to equality, I would no doubt get all Mama Bear on them. ¬†It is with that same ferocity I feel I must sever this friendship. I don’t say this lightly. I mean her no malice and I wish her well in all that is to come for her and her family. ¬†Yes, everyone is entitled to their opinion. ¬†But you don’t get to be my friend when your moral compass is so drastically opposing to what I believe in my heart to be right. ¬†Perhaps it is a failing in my character that I can’t overlook such things. ¬†I don’t know. ¬†What is clear to me is that when there is intolerance and hate, everyone loses.

Until next time, keep fighting the good fight! And remember, behind every great kid is a mom who is sure she is messing it up. ūüôā