I am continually discovering on this journey of motherhood. Even at my “advanced maternal age” I learn something new about myself everyday. I constantly have those moments when I go,” Aha! That is why Moms do that!” Things I used to roll my eyes at now make sense. This constant learning curve certainly keeps this mother humble.
One of the things that used to make me cringe, was a husband and wife calling each other Mommy and Daddy. I have always thought that was really ridiculous. It reminded me of baby talk in a way, and I just couldn’t stomach it. Well this is the perfect case of having to go through it to understand it.
Last week little O walked up to me and said, clear as day, “Hey Mare!” I thought to myself “huh?” He said it again (in case I missed it) and turned and walked away in search of a truck. My 22 month old son was calling me by my nickname. Like a little version of my husband. “Hey Mare!”
Now I shouldn’t be shocked. Of course he hears my husband call me Mare. But then it dawned on me. THAT is why parents call each other Mommy and Daddy!! Hello, Mommy!? Duh! It’s not because there is some weird baby talk fetish at work….it’s because a toddler will repeat EVERYTHING he hears, including inappropriate expletives and, of course, our first names.
Let me tell you, try as hard as you may to mind your P’s & Q’s, a toddler will undoubtedly pick up the words you absolutely don’t want him to hear. It will be the ONE time you slip because shards of fiber glass are shooting into your fingers while you are carelessly throwing something away and your toddler sits watching in his wagon. Doesn’t everyone say “Fudge You!” to inanimate objects? Except I didn’t say Fudge, did I? Nope. If only. Hang out with us enough, and the actual phrase can be heard coming from my son. He really captured my inflection perfectly, I might add. We decided at first not to acknowledge it and now we pretend he is saying “vacuum” (stress on the second syllable). I kid you not.
The point is, my name is now Mommy. My husband is Daddy. My Mother-in-law is Grammy and so it goes. Every day the ridiculousness of parenting becomes more and more my norm. Spelling things out absolutely happens in our house…you can’t say the word s-n-a-c-k until it’s actually happening. No one needs that kind of melt down. I tell you, I get it now. It’s all out of necessity. And we are not alone in it. People with kids around O’s age or a bit older are all in the same boat. The same leaky boat. We are patching up the holes with chewing gum, scotch tape, or whatever we can find to make due, to survive the day. The scary part is that we are only just entering the toddler trenches. The combat has only begun. This M-O-M needs a N-A-P. Signing out. Over and out.
Until next time, keep fighting the good fight and remember that behind every great kid is a mom who is pretty sure she is screwing it up. Thanks for reading! Xo