It Is What It Is


Well, I don’t know about you, but this holiday weekend has left me completely wiped out.  We hosted Thanksgiving dinner for 10 people and a dog, had my parents visiting with us all week, and had our bathroom remodel project commence.  Well, just about.  There are a few things the contractors still need to attend to.  Getting them back here is going to be a headache for sure.  Ugh.  I am digressing, as usual.  Suffice it to say, I’d like to take a long long bath in our new tub.  That’s a great idea.

Of course, all the happenings I just listed were all fraught with bumps and hiccups.  Isn’t everything? I kept the phrase, “It is what it is,” going around in my head like a mantra.  Cause it’s just the truth.  Nothing turns out like you wish it to.  You can plan your Thanksgiving dinner for 4pm, but, if you are us, it’s more like 6pm.  You can try your hardest to please people, but, if you are me, you usually wind up disappointed at the response.  And you can expect a certain level of workmanship from a craftsman, but if you are a perfectionist like me, their work most likely will come up short.  I sound like I’m whining.  I’m really not.  It’s just an exhausted response…but in my heart of hearts I know it is what it is.

The same goes for our project sibling.  No success with conception to date.   While the “trying” is fun, it’s also exhausting.  After two months of no bun in the oven, I am getting the feeling that it may just not happen.  I promised myself I would be ok with it.  But, of course, I feel the pang of disappointment, even if I am keeping it in check.  I think it’s harder to see the look of disappointment on my husband’s face.  It’s was so easy last time, I think he thought it would happen just as quickly the second time around.  But I know that my body is 2 years older than the last time.  I can feel the difference in my body, though no one might be able to see it.  Do any of you gals in your 40’s or higher know what I’m talking about? It’s so strange.  It’s like aging starts to accelerate from within.  It’s totally weird.  So I truly leave it up to God and the Universe.  It is what it is.  And it will be what it will be.

I find the lack of my ability to control the outcome oddly comforting.  I’m glad it’s not up to me.  I get to sit back and wait and see what happens.  I get to have Faith.  I get to Trust in something greater than myself.  I get to say, “It is what it is” and mean it.  And I am reminded everyday that I am not pregnant, I am so so lucky to have the beautiful child I do have.

Until next time, enjoy your left overs and remember, behind every great kid is a mom who is pretty sure she is messing it up.  I’m going to soak in a hot tub with a glass of Pinot Noir.  Thanks so much for reading xo.



  1. Naturallymom says:

    I assure you that not only happens from 40 up. For me, first pregnancy at 31, second at 35 (now) and the difference is noticeable. The only way to succeed is not to think about, but just as being resigned. That’s how come the surprises!

    Now a question: do you like to spend your time in the kitchen cooking for your men? And what are your favorite dishes? And what do you hate? 😉

    • Mary says:

      Thanks for your words of support! I will try to not think about it, as you suggest! 🙂

      I do like to cook for my boys. I still have O on very clean foods. No added sugar…lots of veggies and fruit. Nothing processed. He loves pasta, so I try to do whole wheat as much as possible. No sugary drinks, no candy, no fast food.
      I am more exotic when cooking for my husband and myself…lots of spices. I don’t like anything processed…as fresh as possible. I also try to cook what is in season. With the holidays approaching, I’d like to try some new things. But one of my all time favorites is a mushroom risotto. Yum. I find cooking really fun. How about you?

  2. naturallymom says:

    For us is almost similar, except spices!
    Our son is almost 4 and he loves eating fruit, vegetables, pasta and cheese … It would really unusual for the age!
    But I think that the taste is educated from childhood, so I, like you, try to teach him eating clean, as we adults eat: especially less salt possible and sugar.
    Oil, eggs, vine and vegetables from the farmer, butter and cheeses from 0 km… is not easy and more expensive, but if we don’t spend money for eating healthy… what else?
    If you can find it, try the spelled flour instead of flour 00, has the same flavor and is healthier.

    Yes the mushroom risotto is really delicious, like saffron (really exotic) … then you’ve tried it for the holidays?

    Cooking for my boys is a beautiful thing. I can express them my love <3 <3

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